I’m usually not one for New Year’s resolutions. My resolve comes and goes, and when it’s here it’s ridiculous and when it’s not…well, it’s kind of sad. But I’m trying to make a change happen this year, now that I’ve gotten the first year of full-time work, being out on my own, bills, waking up early, and all those other fun things that come with being an adult. Here’s what I’m “resolving”, to carry on from not just this year, but the future ones as well.
This blog is one of my joys in life, one of the things that keeps me writing even when my creativity feels stagnant, everything seems like it’s spiraling out of control, and weird (or sad) things happen, I think, “Well at least I can blog about this. It makes it easier to handle, somehow.” The community that I’ve become a part of on WordPress and beyond is a fabulous, encouraging place to be, and to facilitate that more, more words need to go on the screen, always more words.
2. Obsess less.
This is a hard one for me. I’ve always been shy, although I’ve gotten better about it over the years, but certain situations still unnerve me. I’ve noticed that I don’t take the initiative to talk to people first, to put myself out there to become better friends with them, even though I really, really want to. From my family to bloggers I meet online, I don’t reach out, and it may seem like I don’t like them as much as I do. It gets to the point where I’m agonizing over whether to Google Talk someone because I’m not sure how they’ll react. So this year, I’m planning to be more proactive about it. Send messages, ask how people are doing, start conversations. I’m starting to realize that fear of rejection is the first step to guaranteeing that it happens.
3. Finish my novel, edit it, and begin the search for publishing routes.
This resolution keeps getting pushed back further, and I’m a little disgusted with myself that it has. I’m so close to completion, and yet it’s sat stagnant in iCloud, floating about, nagging at my brain, but I continue to just read a book or blogs or play WoW and ignoring it. It’s got to stop. Olivia’s story needs to be finished.
4. Get healthier.
I received a Fitbit for Christmas, and I’ve been enjoying data mining my calorie burning, food intake, and number of floors I climb per day (It helps that I live upstairs). I also joined a fitness support group to track my progress for being healthier. I’m 10 pounds over where I’d like to be, but the most important thing is that I want more energy and to be healthier overall – to eat healthier, drink more water, and stop making excuses not to do exercise that I actually like anyway. Yoga is my first step, and then swimming once the pool reopens in the spring.
5. Become more tidy.
I have never been “tidy”. My desk has always been chaotic, my room more so. It was the one argument that I had with my parents consistently. My mom insisted I’d grow out of it, and it really hasn’t happened. Not to mention doing dishes grosses me out more than cleaning the bathroom does. I’ve gotten a lot better about getting things done in a timely manner, but I still never have clean, tidy surfaces. My floor is picked up, but my desk and dresser still have a mass of clutter all over them. I’m going to make an effort this year to dedicate one day a week to making sure each room is acceptable, and try to stem the clutter-collecting.
6. Read 50 books.
I read 40 books last year, with a goal of 50. Not too bad, really, and I’m fairly sure that was more books than I’ve read in a very long time. Toward the end of the year, especially during the holidays, I couldn’t even pick up a book for a week or so, and I didn’t make my goal. I’m hoping to get off to a better start this year and push through to those last 10 books. I am finishing the Harry Potter series, then have a list a mile long to get through of books, plus the library is available, plus Amazon Prime is giving me free pre-release books…SO many books, so little time.
7. Manage money better.
I’ve never been terribly bad at managing my money, but this year was a time of transition. For the first quarter of the year, I was working three different jobs, and I was at a comfortable income level. Then, I finished my teaching contract, and soon after, quit my job at the resort. It’s amazing how much $300 extra a month seems after you don’t have it anymore. With some advice from my mom (“split your rent between your checks, dear”, “oh, Duh.”) and an inadvertent referral to Mint.com from the lovely Jillianastasia, I’m getting a better idea of where my money goes during the month and how I can manage it better.
8. See and talk to friends and family more often.
This stems back to point number 2, with the not making contact first because of fears. I haven’t been very proactive about staying in contact with friends from my past, or even my family members, much to my dismay. One that has really been bothering me is my coworkers from the resort, who I LOVE, who I haven’t seen nearly enough since I left. I’ve got to make a more conscious effort to reach out, because I know all of them are as busy as I am, and just because they haven’t texted me first doesn’t mean they don’t want to hang out, too.
9. Contribute more.
The end of last year was the first time I had contributed to anyone else’s blog. To be allowed to put my words in someone else’s space is an honor and a privilege. I guest-blogged over at Tip of my Tongue and became a contributor at Insatiable Booksluts. I want to continue that trend this year. I’ll be submitting a post per month at IB and hopefully will gain some more opportunities to contribute to other blogs. The amount of discussion and conversation that can happen when these types of relationships are formed is amazing. I am already having a blast being a contributor, and am glad that I decided to bite the bullet and apply this time around.
10. Refresh my search for opportunities that fit my talents (and loves).
Rejection hurts. It tends to make you lose your will to keep putting yourself out there, especially when you’re applying for opportunities that you know you could do well, and you get shoved back down with the reasons why you’re just not quite right for what you want. Honestly, I just need to trust that the perfect opportunity will come up as I search, and I’ll get there. I’ve found a couple of things to apply for this year, and am renewing my resolve to go after them, make sure my resume looks polished, writing clean cover letters, and seeing where I can go.
Well, that’s about it for my resolve for this year, and where my energy is going this year. What do you guys think? Am I making too many changes at once? What are your resolutions for this year? Let me know in the comments!